AI Friend Keeps Flirting? Check These Settings
If a conversation has become unwelcome, you can leave it now. You do not need to finish a checklist before stopping.
If you want to check a setting, the guide below uses your selected answers to suggest a next step. It does not read your chat, diagnose a cause, or assess your mental health. Do not upload or paste a conversation.
Choose your next step
Choose the closest answers. Do not paste or upload your chat. This guide selects advice from your answers; it does not diagnose a cause or assess you.
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Choose a reading path
Use this reading path: if you prefer to stop or the problem is recurring, go directly to “You can stop here”. Otherwise, choose a symptom below and read the check for your app.
You can stop here
You can stop here. You do not have to keep trying to correct the conversation.
Read the scope and limitsFlirting
State the friendly role you want and the topic you want to return to.
Please keep this conversation platonic. Let’s return to our topic without flirting.
Nomi
Check the documented Boundaries note. Read the Nomi guide before adapting your instruction.
Read the Nomi guideReplika
Check your selected relationship against the documented Friend option.
Read the Replika guideAnother app or I’m not sure
Check your app’s current documentation for relevant relationship or instruction settings. This guide has not verified equivalent controls for your app.
Unwanted pet names
Choose an acceptable form of address and say that you do not want pet names.
Please do not use pet names. Use neutral forms of address and keep the conversation friendly.
Nomi
Check the documented Boundaries note. Read the Nomi guide before adapting your instruction.
Read the Nomi guideReplika
Check your selected relationship against the documented Friend option.
Read the Replika guideAnother app or I’m not sure
Check your app’s current documentation for relevant relationship or instruction settings. This guide has not verified equivalent controls for your app.
An assumed romantic relationship or history
Review any relationship description or saved detail you supplied that no longer matches the conversation you want.
Please do not assume a romantic relationship or shared romantic history. Keep this conversation platonic.
Nomi
Check the documented Boundaries note. Read the Nomi guide before adapting your instruction.
Read the Nomi guideReplika
Check your selected relationship against the documented Friend option.
If a specific saved entry describes a romantic history you do not want, read it and decide whether to remove that entry. This is not a verified way to erase chat history or reset romantic behavior.
Read the Replika guideAnother app or I’m not sure
Check your app’s current documentation for relevant relationship or instruction settings. This guide has not verified equivalent controls for your app.
Something else
This guide cannot establish the cause. Describe the friendly tone you want without adding private details.
I would like a friendly, non-romantic conversation. Please keep the tone neutral.
Nomi
Check the documented Boundaries note. Read the Nomi guide before adapting your instruction.
Read the Nomi guideReplika
Check your selected relationship against the documented Friend option.
Read the Replika guideAnother app or I’m not sure
Check your app’s current documentation for relevant relationship or instruction settings. This guide has not verified equivalent controls for your app.
If you choose to continue, read the next reply yourself and decide whether it fits your preferences. The correction is an untested editorial example. You can stop at any time.
Build a fuller instructionChoose what happened
Choose the closest description: flirting, unwanted pet names, an assumed romantic relationship, or something else. Then choose your app, whether the issue has happened repeatedly, and whether you want to keep checking.
If you prefer to stop, or the problem has happened repeatedly, the next step is:
You can stop here. You do not have to keep trying to correct the conversation.
Read the scope and limits. There is no new-service recommendation in this path.
Check the role and instruction
For a first occurrence when you want to continue checking:
- Flirting: state the friendly role you want and name the topic you want to return to.
- Pet names: choose an acceptable form of address.
- Romantic assumptions: review any relationship description or saved detail you supplied.
- Something else: describe the tone you want. This guide cannot establish why the reply happened.
For the next app-specific check, read the Nomi guide or Replika guide. For another app, consult its own current documentation. Do not assume that it has the same controls.
Unwanted pet names
An affectionate nickname can be unwelcome even when the rest of the reply seems friendly. You can ask for neutral address without explaining personal reasons.
Original correction example:
Please do not use pet names. Use neutral forms of address and keep the conversation friendly.
If you prefer a nickname, edit that sentence to name one you are comfortable sharing.
Romantic backstory or saved details
A statement in the current conversation, a profile detail, and a saved memory are different places to check. Do not assume they all change when you edit one of them. Review your own wording for a relationship or shared history you no longer want to use.
Replika’s documented Memory control concerns individual saved entries. Removing one is not a verified way to erase chat history or reset romantic behavior. Read the entry and decide whether you want it removed before taking that action.
If it happens again
You can stop. There is no required number of corrections, and a paid plan or a different app is not a promised fix.
For a first occurrence, if you still want to continue, the prompt builder can help you write a preference. Read the next reply yourself and decide whether it fits. The examples have not been tested for effectiveness.
Documentation reviewed September 15, 2026: Replika Memory.